Cocco's approach basically excludes all women of color from the conversation

One of the reasons the Democratic coalition is so dysfunctional is that so many of us fail to understand it's not a competition over whose problems are worse.  Not everyone can have their way every time.  Racism and sexism are BOTH serious problems and good Democrats should be focused on fixing BOTH of them - not on bickering over which one of them should be fixed first.

Never ever is it okay to just say, women are discriminated against every day in society and we need to do better. The male power structure feels threatened and immediately tries to shut us down.

As evidence, note the continued failure of the ERA. Note that women are still getting paid less than men for equal work. Note that maternity leave is disappearing and being replaced with "disability" pay, as if motherhood and pregnancy were illnesses. Note that Barack Obama thinks it's all right to call perfect strangers "sweetie" and offer women kisses in return for votes.

If any group attempts to jump the line? There will be political ramifications for line jumping.

"See, class, here's a prime example of the clueless sexist.  Notice the smug tone, the dismissiveness, the confession of ignorance.  Now over here is Rush Limbaugh..."

Cocco's approach basically excludes all women of color from the conversation

The same number of racist slurs leveled at Obama for being black would receive a response in media and from partisans and non-partisans.

The same amount of media time fomenting racist-based fantasies and attacks -- those being criticisms having nothing whatsoever to do with his own words and deeds -- would bring forth a heated Dem response.

Just as an example (not even one involving hate, but just the coarsening of our language), does anybody doubt that if a politician other than Obama had referred to a woman reporter as "Sweetie" even just a year ago, he'd get no end of grief for it?

I wonder how many women supporters of Obama are going to feel when they find themselves, in the future, the target of very condescending language in the workplace or elsewhere, protest about their treatment, and can find no sympathetic ear for their complaints.

I've two sisters, both of whom are pro-Obama, one more tightly wound in general and more rabid for Obama, but both of 'em have said zero about the misogyny--and they're both educated, professional, have expressed zero stomach for old boys networks, belittling comments, etc. I can guarantee that a man calling either of them "sweetie," asking them to make coffee, etc., would go over like a lead balloon.

I get that the perfect is the enemy of the good and all that, but feels like one could be pro-Obama and displeased with things that have been said and done in the course of the campaign, at least by members of the media (pun intended). Seems more like "If it helps Obama, it's good!"

It is a "divide and conquer" technique to maintain power and control of the fews. It is intended to keep minorities separate and fighting with each others to weaken the struggles to achieve equal                human rights for all.

Tina Fey can use the B-word.

And because Hillary had the bad judgment to be born female, again, I get the "you just like her because she's one of you," regardless of how many reasoned and substantive arguments I make.

So many of us have worked so hard to eliminate prejudice from our words, our deeds, our thought processes, have taught our children that we are all truly equal, have objected to racist jokes and sexist jokes, had reached the point where we felt as color- and gender-blind as we could possibly be that to now be accused of something I am not is just offensive.  And to know that I am accused of it in order to benefit someone's race for the presidency is even worse.

I feel used in ways that I have not felt - to this degree - for a long, long time.

And where do I direct that resentment and anger and disgust - at the candidate who preaches unity, and transcending our differences.

I must remember to check and see if "transcend" now means "use people's differences to get ahead - make no apologies for the bodies you leave in your path."

Under the guise of protecting Obama from racism or protecting the first serious Black candidate from the evil no-holds-barred Clintons, instead of being more sensitive sexist coverage, the media and the blogs have actually gotten much worse as the campaign has progressed.

Yes, the emails circulating on the internet about Obama being a Muslim were ugly and obviously wrong, but the media promptly went after it and defended Obama with a vengeance.  There has been equally devastating emails about Hillary being a lesbian and other subjects that do not deserve repeating. One of the major tabloids even ran a front pate headline of "Hillary's Secret Lesbian Lover" that everyone that bought groceries two weeks ago saw as they went through the check-out line.  Media response... zilch.

And, as mentioned previously, the slightest mention of race by Clinton or any other their surrogates instantly generates charges of racism by the Obama camp that dutifully gets echoed by the media. But Obama can personally degrade Clinton with sexist comments and actions and its crickets from the media.

His quote:

"It's actually easier for an African American to get elected in this country than a woman, president, actually." - Matt Dowd

This is actually a really good opportunity for a site to make an important statement.  The "Obama is good, McCain is bad" lefty sites will be dime a dozen.  But the rest of us have some pretty historic and valid points to make.

There are a lot of good women (and men) like me who are mad as hell and quite simply not going to take it anymore.  Where do we go?  

I'm not a Republican and never will be.  But I'm actually looking forward to the poetic justice of seeing Obama lose.  And responsibility squarely in the laps of Kennedy and all the other misogynists.

I'm still the same person I always was, it's the party that has changed.  I have considered myself a Democrat since watching the Watergate hearings as a kid, and have voted, donated, and volunteered for them ever since.